I spent the first three years of my marriage trying to be the perfect wife. I said yes to everything. Always put his needs first. Shrunk myself to keep him comfortable. Gave up hobbies that took time away from being available. I believed being a good wife meant sacrifice, service, and selflessness to the point … Read more
“She’s just being helpful.” That’s what my husband said every time his mother overstepped. Every time she made a decision about our house. Our schedule. Our lives. Maybe she believed she was being helpful. It didn’t feel supportive though. It felt controlling. At first it was hard to name. She seemed pleasant and smiled to … Read more
My husband asked me what was wrong. “Nothing,” I said. Ice in my voice. Arms crossed. Face turned away. He knew it wasn’t nothing. I knew he knew. But I wasn’t going to say it. I wanted him to figure it out. To push harder. To care enough to dig deeper. He sighed and walked … Read more
Last Tuesday turned into a fight and now I cannot even remember what started it maybe something as small as the dishes. Or was it about plans for the weekend? It got heated. Voices were raised. I said something sharper than I meant to. He walked away frustrated. And for a moment, I panicked. Is … Read more
I used to get mad at my husband for the weirdest things. For example, when the living room was rearranged or after a rough day when all I wanted was a hug without questions, I’d silently fume, expecting him to notice. Frustration built until I finally exploded, asking how he didn’t see I was upset. … Read more
Love feels like enough. Until you’re married and realize you never talked about money. Or kids. When challenges arise, many couples spend more time planning the wedding than preparing for marriage. Attention goes to the dress, venue, and guest list, while important conversations are avoided. When reality sets in, disagreements appear over issues assumed to … Read more
You know that feeling in your gut? The one that whispers something’s wrong, but you keep pushing it away? Maybe it feels like just a rough patch, something every marriage goes through, something that will get better with time. But deep down, you know. Spark fading, connection feeling forced, distance growing. Living together yet feeling … Read more
Men are confusing, right? Don’t talk about feelings. Shuts down when asked what’s wrong. Says “I’m fine” even when it’s obvious something’s off. But here’s the truth: your husband wants things from you. Deep, meaningful things. Just doesn’t know how to say it. Maybe afraid to. Or thinks there’s no need to ask. So he … Read more
Remember when you couldn’t keep your hands off each other? When you’d stay up late talking about everything and nothing? When sex was spontaneous and frequent, not something you had to pencil in between diaper changes and bedtime routines? Yeah. Then kids happened. And suddenly, intimacy became the thing you meant to get back to … Read more
You know what’s funny about marriage? Everyone’s chasing these big romantic moments. Grand gestures. Expensive vacations. Surprise gifts that cost a month’s salary. But the stuff that actually keeps a marriage strong? It’s the small things. The everyday moments most people overlook. A text in the middle of the day. A ten-second hug before work. … Read more